There is quite a bit of chatter lately about authenticity and fearlessness and courage and vulnerability, I mean we love buzz words. But these aren’t just buzz words. These words allow us to let go of external expectations and truly be happy within our lives.
“To be authentic, we must cultivate the courage to be imperfect – and vulnerable. We have to believe that we are fundamentally worthy of love and acceptance, just as we are. I’ve learned that there is no better way to invite more grace, gratitude and joy into our lives than by mindfully practicing authenticity” – Brene Brown
I love this quote from Brene Brown. If we allow ourselves to be imperfect then we begin the work of believing we are truly worthy of love and acceptance. How? Because people still love and accept us as we are! We are usually the ones who fight ourselves. We are usually the ones tearing ourselves down. We are the ones that rarely see the love shown us from others!
The first step in this journey is awareness.
The second step is allowance.
Allowing ourselves to be loved after we have been vulnerable….
I have no idea when we started to believe that we had to have our hair glued perfectly in place or have flawless makeup all day every day, but for the love of all things real can we please stop!?!!?
And who decided the mark of a successful life had to include a spouse who looked like a model, 2.5 children, a six figure income – x 2 thank you – and a house perfect enough to grace the covers of an HGTV magazine?! Whomever they were, they need to kick some rocks!
Happiness is not marked by material things. Happiness is created within when we truly appreciate what we have.
When we are able to be happy despite the world around us, we allow others a glimpse of what their happiness could look like despite the world around them. We provide a place of comfort and ease. A place of non-judgement.
“Authenticity is about presence, living in the moment with conviction and confidence and staying true to yourself. An authentic person puts the people around them at ease, like a comforting, old friend who welcomes us in and makes us feel at home.” - Christopher Connors
I believe authenticity is about all of these things combined.
“Authenticity is the willingness to be who we are, to accept where we are and know how to find grace, courage and peace when we need it most. And to allow others the same freedom when we share space with them.” – Rina Jensen
Test this. Allow yourselves to be authentic and watch what happens in your life. You may just find yourself smiling...
Rina is a business resiliency coach focusing on the emotional and psychological side of business. She can help you manage expectations, let go of attachment and truly change your mindset. Te learn more, visit her website.